I figure if i don’t try as hard in one post, then i will be more likely to post. So with that said, i have a few thoughts.
1. I hate drama
2. if you want a real friend, be a real friend. (in reality this isn’t foolproof)
3. Look for friends who are as consistent as you are.
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Well this wouldn’t be the first time i took a huge hiatus from my blog, but that doesn’t make it OK. i apologize to the 2 fans who came and viewed my blog yesterday just to find nothing updated since last year. Time really flies, doesn’t it?
Anyways, i have been through a lot in the past 6 months, whether it be with friends, my self esteem, romance or God. However, the most radical has been forging a relationship through the modern conveniences such as texting, Facebook and Skype. My life won’t be the same because of knowing this person. Our relationship has been great since it started last September, at least until I realized that I had absolutely no idea where they stood in terms of their faith. Now, mind you they are my absolute best friend in the whole world. I couldn’t live without them. However, faith is such an important part of my life that I had to reconsider the relationship. I’m not saying that we aren’t still best friends, but it’s important to me where my best friend in the whole world stands on the most important cornerstone of my life.
To be quite honest, I haven’t been keeping up with reading my bible and I haven’t done enough to spread the word, but I see a future with this person. Therefore, it is necessary to know where they stand. At this point, I think the only way we could get any closer is by having fellowship in God. Frankly, I want to know her from the inside out, and this is the only murky part. oops, I said it. “I was a boy, she was a girl, can i be anymore obvious.” wow. i didn’t think i would end up quoting Sk8r boi by various artists in my blog, ever. but here you go. enjoy it while it’s there.
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Many of you, if not all of you have friends. There are your best friends, your friends you see at school or work, the friends on your sports team or at your church, or your neighbor, or someone you meet just randomly. There are different types of friends. Some friends will want to have fun all the time. Other friends may only hang out with you because they want something from you. But most importantly, there are the friends who try to make you a better person, and keep nudging you towards being the best you can be. Those friends are the ones that you want to hang around. It seems obvious though, doesn’t it? Yet we all find ourselves at some point in a situation where we have to choose between the “good friends” or the other friends.
I would love to tell you that choosing the right group of people is easy, and there is nothing to it, but I would be lying. Choosing the best people to hang out with can be hit and miss. One could be invited to a party by someone who seems nice, but instead of a chill time, one goes to a dehumanizing, malevolent party where people are drinking alcoholic beverages, doing drugs, and being intimate in a strictly physical way. Life is so much easier when you stay away from things that will bring you down like that.
What group of friends would you say you’re in?
Do you feel like you’re not going to give up some relationships just to get away from evil?
Do you see some of your friends going down that path where they are hanging with the wrong crowd?
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Today is thanksgiving, and I thought it would be a good chance to talk about thankfulness. We usually think of being thankful as comparing one’s situation to others in different circumstances. Personally, I don’t really give thanks to anyone. I mean, besides the things that I’m supposed to be thankful for, such as when I get a new “toy” or some material thing. The things i don’t give thanks for are the less obvious ones. There are many people in my life that I may or may not know of that have put me in the situation that I’m in right now. No matter how childish I can be, they always keep me moving forward. Another way I neglect the gifts I’ve been given is by simply not keeping my eyes open wide enough to see it.
I always hear about the people who have gone through college and are so thankful for all their parents did for them and how they didn’t quite understand how much did until they got older. I think that the first key to a thankful heart is doing one’s best to realize this. When you realize just how hard you made it for everyone but they still put up with it, that’s what love is. I know that you might not have the picture-perfect life that we all dream of, but that’s what makes life interesting. But the biggest thing we should all be thankful is an opportunity to have a relationship with the all powerful, all good, all love, champion of the universe, weighing in at infinity pounds…. (drum roll) GOD ALMIGHTY!
What are you thankful for?
What ways do you ignore all the gifts you have been given?
James 1:2-7 NIV
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.
Recently I have gone through some depressing and demoralizing things, from getting bad grades to losing the little drive in my life that allowed me to remain diligent about things I had to do. I think that one large aspect of my failure is the fact that I haven’t been submersing myself into God’s word enough. I might tell you that I don’t have any room in my day to have a quiet time but that’s simply not true. I could also tell you that I don’t need the Lord’s wisdom, but that’s clearly not the case.
I think it’s hard for anyone to keep seeking God when they feel like they don’t need Him. When I feel the need for Him, I get pissed at myself. I hate that I can’t maintain a relationship with my Creator. I hate that I keep going away from Him even though I see how it hurts. I want that long lasting relationship not a bonfire of leaves.
Where is your relationship with God at? Is it an “emergency only” relationship? Is it non-existent? Do you feel like you get farther and farther away from God with every day? Do you feel like you are too bad a person for God to care about? Or is your relationship with Him strong? Do you feel like you can take on anything because you have the most powerful person backing you up?
Lying. It seems unavoidable. All 6.5 billion people do it, whether they admit it or not. Yet the bible tells us that lying is wrong and it’s blatantly warned against in one of the famous 10 commandments. Why is it so hard to tell the whole truth? things such as opinions and feelings can impede our ability to “tell it like it is.” I know too well that you don’t seem to hurt people when you “forget” to tell them something that you think can only hurt them. I know that you can feel scared to tell the truth because you are afraid of the reaction you will get. But this is not the answer.
A lot of times, people are confronted with the decision to be open and honest with someone, or to put on a mask to conceal the hurt and helplessness we all feel at points in life. Alas, I know for a fact that when you are open, your less stressed.
I think that people need to realize that for a healthy relationship to work, there needs to be trust. So if one person in the relationship, no matter what kind, can’t be honest, that relationship will not workout 90% of the time.
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so throughout the past few weeks, i’ve been thinking about perspective, particularly when you experience powerful feelings that cloud your judgement and your ability to see the big picture. i know this might be a cliché topic, but it’s repeated because it is important. When two people disagree, they frequently lack the ability to see the other side’s point of view. I know from personal experience that it’s extremely hard to see the situation from the “enemy’s” shoes. If people did that regularly, I believe that people could live happier lives. If you think about one argument you had with a friend that caused you to stop being friends, do you remember what it was about? there are exceptions, but for most people the answer is “No.” That loss of a relationship probably could have been stopped by just stepping back and taking a look around you. You could do awesome great things if you just learned to put yourself in other people’s shoes. I don’t mean to hype to many things, but Kutless, a Christian band, has a song called “Perspectives” that explains this idea. i think it’s important that we all just try to feel what other people might be feeling because in that way we are able to connect with people and build relationships with those in a malignant situation. “a friend in need is a friend indeed,” pretty much sums up the relationships growing more. I also feel that when i am broken, that’s when i feel closest to God. It’s weird, I know. But the fact is I feel as though God puts me back together when i fall apart. I hate to give TWO PLUGS for my fav bands but the band “RED” has a song called “Pieces” which talks about how we repeatedly come to God in pieces so that he can make us whole. I promise I will not make the next post more than 19 days from now because that is simply too long.
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